I further agree with Alek, which is why I'm gonna play vRO. I find that resetters REALLY screw with the game, and just make things retarded. To the argument of "fine tuning your build", there are tons of char sims out there and we even have the *ghasp* RMS TEST SERVER! I know I though it was just for super high rate 500/255 server f*** too! A good player will spend his/her time leveling and spending actual time as a non transcendent to gather their gears and enjoy party leveling. Leveling is supposed to be an accomplishment, not something that is just handed to you so you can pvp. I have played on iRO, and it yes, has its benefits, but I don't have too many friends there, nor is it easy to get highly geared friends as you're looked down upon till 89 trans, so its not like i'll be bought levels to 99, therefor I have to spend either lots of real money on battle manuals, or spend months grinding just to get to trans. With official like private servers, especially something I like about vRO, are ones where you don't have donations where you don't have to donate to be good, or hell, you can't even donate to get any sort of edge except maybe a cool looking headgear. If you want to play the game as it is intended to be played, go for a low rate server, not one of these lvl past 99/third class on pre-renewal mechanics/super wing s*** servers.
Now on topic...Wings that take up 3 cells to each side of you, auras that make it hard to even see your character, and servers that let you pass 99/70 really irk me.