Sorry to bump, but,
AriaRO wasn't mine. That was Che's. I had no server access - only a forum account, and an in-game account that wasn't even 99 (only 80). Her absent-mindedness about DDOS attacks was what screwed the server initially, and I had no knowledge of her having completely ignored that factor. My absence in that case was due to not having a computer, as I had dropped my laptop down two fleats of stairs, and I didn't have money to replace it.
Thus the only "dead server" that can be blamed on me as an individual, would be aeRO, and I though at the time I was doing nothing, I became very busy with volunteering and school at that point. As well, my sister was hospitalized, CAS became involved, and being a minor it wasn't sure if we were going to be removed from the household or not. I was also working.
/shrugs