It's like working for Samsung while owning Apple. It's a conflict of interest. She'd rather GM on another server than host her own? If you own a server, I don't think it makes sense to help another. Especially since her own server only has like 50 people online and was pretty much a bust since day 1. She's against 3pp's yet she GMs on a server with the highest usage rate?
I won't even bother replying to the other stuff you wrote but let me tell you following:
What I do in my free time next to elaria, if it's doing graphics for almost every other server out there (which I do, because I have a paid service topic on hercules/am in the herc staff as graphics moderator) or if I help other servers out in general, is my business.
If you can not handle two jobs at the same time, that's your problem not mine.
I have and always will be most active on elaria but if I feel like working on some other RO or NON-RO related things then who are you to judge me?
Conflict of interest? I am not the server owner of RoM, I don't have to help a server because I love every single decision they make or their server setup. I help them because I know the owners or because they need someone in the things I am good with.
Maybe in your opinion it's bad to help the "competition" but to me I don't see people as competition, f*** I even did graphics for the owner of At**sRO even if they "destroyed our server" as some people said. I just like to help people and everyone who knows me knows that too.
To RoM being our "direct competition"? Their server is completely different than ours, it's a lowrate and caters a complete different audience of players. Their features and systems are completely different too.
Anyway, that's my two cents.
Don't judge a book by it's cover BestPlayerEver, I've worked on way more than just one server before and managed it perfectly fine.