my RO life...
really, overall it consists of helping - both within and outside of the game. I like to help the playerbase, and the server as a whole if I can. that's what I enjoy most about the server I'm playing on.
allow me to illustrate.
within the game, I love to help newcomers. my guild is designed to help new players - my guild storage is fully stocked with newbie gear, plus items that may help with quests. I always love to party level with a newbie and watch all those levels go so fast. I have two low-level supernovices on 99% tax (levels 46 and 64), so that when people got up to about level 35, we could share experience and I could help them level on soils in louyang.
of course, I do other things in-game too. but that's where my real joy comes from.
I got my start helping the server outside of the game with voting sites. one of the GMs started this, and when she left...I kinda took it over, even though I was just a player. since I was just a player, I could provide incentives such as server-wide db parties if we did well without violating any voting sites' ToS.
then things started growing...and now me and one other player are pulling together an advertising campaign, and the admins will fund it.
this is the fun for me. grinding, woe, that's all well and good, it gets boring for me though. just hanging out in pront and chatting, that's better - that's a lot of fun too. helping out is awesomeness.